Dating an older recently divorced man
I use “our” because he has, essentially, been living with me for the last two years, returning to his apartment only when his kids visit. In all other respects he’s a loving, smart, thoughtful man who seems very committed to me. Or is this par for the course when dating a divorced dad? Because he’s taking care of his children and not dressing you and furs and diamonds? If you want your apartment to look a certain way, pay for it. That doesn’t mean he won’t do everything he can to show you how much he loves you and what you do mean to him.
I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.We’ve recently begun discussing if he should give-up his apartment now that he’s divorced, but as the possibility looms, my concerns over his financial situation deepen. If you want to live together, then you can do what men have been doing for years…pay his way. If it’s that important that he makes some move that makes you feel as though you’re a priority, then you’re going to have to pay for it. You could always just keep doing things the way you’ve been doing them. If he’s already staying at your place so often, then what’s the difference?I know divorce is expensive, but he left the marriage with a lot of old, shared debt (K). Because I’m not buying that this is about his financial situation. You rarely if ever hear men complain about having to do this. That’s why I don’t think this is about wanting to build a home together.Self-Improvement One of the best ways to spend your time, especially after a divorce, is on self-improvement.
Taking classes, reading books, learning new skills and other forms of self-improvement are the perfect channel for your. Getting divorced is one of the hardest things you’ll ever go through. Once the divorce is finalized the worst part is over.